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    Is It Worth Applying for AA at the Moment?

    Hubby's health has taken a drastic turn for the worse over the past couple of months. Gasping for breathe after walking a few paces, can't tie shoelaces, struggles to get showered and dressed and to carry out any activities in life. On top of his lymphoma an echocardiogram has shown he is falling into heart failure. He has a extremely dilated aorta too. On top of all that he is anaemic and booked for gastric investigations to see if any nasties are the cause. Also waiting for urgent referral appointments for an abdominal ultrasound and cardiology.
    Our doctor has said he is in a life threatening position and monitoring him weekly as well as putting him on all sorts of drugs on top of what he already takes.

    Is it worth applying now with nothing in writing other than a report from the gastric consultation or waiting until we have reports from all of the other appointments?

    You can imagine the struggle we are having as he has to help me too.
    Just thinking that the money would enable us to get extra help to do all the things he used to do as a matter of course and is now unable to do.

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    I have no idea on your question beau, but could not pass by without saying I'm so very sorry hubby's so ill.

    Sending you both my best wishes as I know how horrible it is when a member of the family is so ill & the strain it puts on everything

    xxx

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    Thank you very much StarBright. Even though I don't want it I would feel happier if he was in hospital under medical supervision. If anything should happen at home there is nothing I could do to help other than dial 999 as the doctor has told him.

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    Yes it's the constant on edge of not knowing what's going to happen & if it did getting someone there to help quickly. Let alone the sheer horror of seeing a loved one so ill. I've seen a loved one gasp for breath like that it's literally terrifying

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    Hi Beau

    I am sorry you are having such a difficult time at the moment.

    I'm not sure if you have looked at the eligibility criteria for AA so just thought I would put it here for you:

    You can get Attendance Allowance if you’ve reached State Pension age and the following apply:
    •you have a physical disability (including sensory disability, for example blindness), a mental disability (including learning difficulties), or both
    •your disability is severe enough for you to need help caring for yourself or someone to supervise you, for your own or someone else’s safety
    •you have needed that help for at least 6 months (unless you’re terminally ill)

    Hopefully this will help you decide when to claim. If your hubby has needed help with care/supervision for the last 6 months then you could claim now. It is best to get as much support as possible from specialists and your GP.

    Take care. Andrea

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    It has been going on for a good few months, since just after lockdown, getting progressively worse but he wouldn't contact the doctors as he said he was unfit through shielding and not moving about, being pig headed as men are. It wasn't until I took matters into my own hands about 4 weeks ago and got him an appointment, that was a telephone one, which led to blood tests and the nightmare began. Therefore we have no evidence of how long he has been getting worse only on our say so which is not good enough.
    Will have to leave it and hope.

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    My advice would be apply they can only say no but you will of tried.

    A few years ago a lady I worked with her husband had cancer and she was having to do everything for him so I suggested she applied for AA.She sent for the forms and brought them to me to help her fill them in .Lo and behold they received the AA.She like others knew nothing about what they could claim.

    I should add that the lady only worked with me for 4 hours a week and her daughter looked after the husband for the time he would of been on his own.

    I also told another friend to apply as her mum was practically bed bound.She got it as well and the my friend applied for CA and she got that as well.

    My attitude these days is apply as they can only say no but they can also say yes

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    Thank you, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
    Waiting for yet more tests and emergency appointments. The problem is we really have no evidence at the moment, only our say so. Because of Covid he didn't bother the doctors just after the whole thing blew up when in fact he should have. Been going on for over 6 months now but no evidence because of that.

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    Never rains but it pours. Endoscopies were clear but the patch on his lung has changed. They are now looking at lung cancer as a cause of the anaemia and that on top of his Non Hodgkins Lymphoma. He has an appointment on Sunday for urgent chest and abdominal CT scans and an urgent appointment on Monday at our local Macmillan unit.
    I feel as though we are living a nightmare. If it is a nasty on his lung he has been told treatment options are very limited because of his heart failure. In other words, a death sentence.

    The annoying thing is that if he had had his usual lymphoma check up instead of just a telephone appointment in June all this would have been picked up with the blood tests they do as routine.
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    Hi beau,

    I'm so very sorry this is happening to your hubby. Just so you know I understand how horrific this is for you both & all your family I lost a close family member to Cancer 3 years ago in a horrifying way.

    I know this nightmare your all living in & you are totally right it's a nightmare but not one you wake up & everything's fine it's actually happening & there is very little to nothing you can do to stop it. When cancer spreads it spreads & fast.

    Your on a mad treadmill of appointments places to go tests to have & always waiting for the results when in actual fact all you are doing is playing catch up with the cancer. It will always be ahead of you.

    To be honest if hubby had his usual lymphoma check up there's no guarantee it would of picked it up, but can understand that it might of.

    There's no practical advise I can give apart from remembering to eat & drink as I know when your roaming around different places this can be forgotten as well as just living it.

    Tell him you love him he will all ready know that but saying it is surprisingly good for both of you

    XXX

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